Insta-love in books—it’s horrible! We all hate it. Characters know each other for about 5 minutes and are already declaring their love. To celebrate love that has built up over time rather than instantly, I’ve compiled a list of 10 reasons why your relationship isn’t insta-love.
1. He loves you when you make a fool out of yourself
What’s the single most embarrassing thing you can think of? Well, imagine doing it in front of him. You want to run, hide, and never reemerge again because OHMYGOD HE SAW!!! It’s okay though, because he still loves you. (And there’s only some minor teasing.)
2. It wasn’t love at first sight
Maybe it was like at first sight, or interest at first conversation.. but it wasn’t love straight away. You took time to get to know each other before you fell head over heels.
3. He makes sacrifices for you
He has absolutely zero interest in seeing Frozen, but after one look at your big puppy dog eyes and enthusiasm, there’s no way he can say no.
4. He goes out of his way to do sweet things you didn’t ask for
You sit around moaning about your cookie craving, then the next day, he buys you cookies on his way home from work. And a bonus here: he listens, even when you’re pathetically moaning about how you want cookies.
5. He comfortably talks about the future with you, and follows through
Maybe he plans a trip with you six months in advance, or he talks about where you two might be in two years. Then, when the time comes, he follows through with his plans.
6. You can recognize all his different facial expressions
That’s his fake smile, that’s the smile he uses when he’s teasing you, that’s the smile he uses when he’s ridiculously happy, that’s the smile he uses when he’s doing something really weird and cute and is totally pleased with himself.
You’ve got them all nailed down. No manual needed.
7. He challenges you.. in a way that can be frustrating, but you secretly love it
He won’t do everything for you, and won’t let you take the easy way out. But it’s only because he love you and wants to help you learn.
8. He gives you first pick of the garlic bread
Because, you know, there are the perfectly crispy pieces, then there are the “not so crispy” pieces. He lets you pick your pieces first so you can snag all the extra crispy ones.
9. He misses you when you’re gone
Whether you’re gone all day, all week, or all month, he’s missing you and thinking of you. And of course, you miss him back! 😉
10. He still loves you, despite your quirks
Whether it’s a massive addiction to hot chocolate, or weird sleeping habits, or you turn into the hulk if you don’t consume food within one hour of waking up, he can see past that and loves you anyway!