Life of a Blogger: Significant Others – Ashley + Coding God

Coding God and Ashley at the Colosseum in Rome

Today I’m going to talk about my significant other.

If you read my blog regularly, you’ve probably heard about the infamous Coding God—my boyfriend and the love of my life! I apologize for blurring his face, but he’s like a super hero and he needs to keep his identity a secret.

Coding God is the master of all things coding. He does server-side scripting and server management like a boss. Sometimes it looks like Chinese to me, but it’s sexy and makes me think, “HOW YOU SO SMART!?”

Coding God and I met online in 2006 (holy crap, like seven years ago!). We both started working for the same website, and had a few casual interactions as colleagues. After about two years, we finally started talking more casually and became friends.. and I started thinking.. “Holy crap, I really like this guy!”

In my first year of college (2009), we decided to consider ourselves ‘together’.. but we hadn’t even met in person yet. I lived in California and he lived in England. I couldn’t exactly hop in a cab and go meet him. But I was so in love with his personality. We talked on Skype all day every day. We watched TV shows “together” (meaning we hit “play” at the same time and then talk/laugh about it as we watched it), played games together, and ran up massive international texting bills.

Love Balloon

In 2010, I finally had an opportunity to go meet Coding God! I hopped on a plane and spent a few wonderful weeks with him in England! I had no idea I could love him even more than I already had, but I totally did. Meeting him in person completely solidified all my feelings. He and I just clicked. We’re both nerdy, cuddly, homebodies who just get each other. (Plus I finally got to watch him code in person, and let me tell you, that shit is hot.) I knew I had to find a way to be with him more permanently.

After that, we were in an international long distance relationship for a year. It was hard and I missed him like crazy, but there was a light at the end of the tunnel. I somehow (who knows how!) managed to convince my parents to let me start over at a new university in the UK! So my two years at university in the US kind of went to waste, but I’d finally be in the same country as Coding God!

In 2011 I started at the University of Kent in Canterbury, UK. Coding God and I still had a long distance relationship (since he doesn’t live in Canterbury), but it was so much more manageable! We were just a train ride (or two) away, instead of an expensive 11 hour plane ride! We lived with each other for weeks (or sometimes months) at a time. We went on adventures to Rome (pictured at the top of the page!) and Paris. He even took me to Hogwarts! (..or the Warner Brothers Studio.. but it’s basically Hogwarts.)

Coding God and I love doing things together, but sometimes even just being in the same room is enough. I’ll snuggle up and read while he plays a video game. Even if we’re not actually interacting, just being in each others’ presence is so much better than being alone.

And now, in 2013, we’re even talking about getting married in the next year or so!

I know more than anything that Coding God is the man for me. He’s seen me at my best and at my worst. He loves me even though I’m weird and ridiculous and sometimes a bit crazy. He even tolerates my tendency to steal ALL OF THE COVERS and ALL OF THE BED.

Bed Cartography

This man makes me so happy; I physically cannot be upset in his presence. There was this one day a few weeks ago where I was SO UPSET—like near tears all day long. Then I went to Coding God’s flat and the second he walked in the door, I just wasn’t upset anymore. After a long day of moping and feeling sorry for myself, suddenly everything was okay.. not even that, but AMAZING. Being upset while with Coding God is like trying to divide by zero. IT JUST DOESN’T WORK!

Tell me about your significant other!

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  1. My “significant other” as you call it, is a guy with the name Alex. He is 3 years older than me and he’s beautiful and amazing. We met on the 31st of January in 2009 and we’re together since… Well it was still the 31st or it was the 1st of February already, we’re not sure. We’re living together since June 2009 and we’re still in love and on the 31st of January, we’re together for 5 years. We’re talking about marriage and kids and stuff too. But we do have cats who are kind of like babies but way more irritating from time to time. (We can’t be mad at them when they do something bad… their faces are so adorable.) Alex is really sweet and actually way out of my league according to a lot of people (who don’t like me), but he doesn’t care because he thinks I’m perfect (which I’m so not) and beautiful and I make him happy apparently. So. It’s all good! 🙂 We’re not only a couple, but we’re good friends too and we fight sometimes, but we laugh about it afterwards and we have a lot of fun together, which is also very important to me. So yeah. That’s a lot about my guy isn’t it? :p

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  2. Awww you guys are so CUTE! I love reading stories of happy couples, and this is just perfect! Your love for Coding God (and yes, I get how that can be attractive ;)) just shines through in your words and I’m so happy for you both! You guys remind me of Anna and Etienne; how Etienne goes to study in the US to be near her, and how they both meet each other by travelling in a couple of trains 😀

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  3. I’m happy to read you’re through your little crisis and start look up again. =)
    I already told you a bit about my significant other, but some of your parts sound like us as well. 😉
    However, I have to warn you that permanently living together in your own space is not the same as only living together weeks/months at time. I never thought that, but now we’ve been living together for 9 months, our own flat, only us and the kittens, and it’s not the same. Okay, of course it wouldn’t be, because before there’d always be someone else around, like flat mates and parents — no real privacy, but still.
    Now I’m the one a little in a slump atm, but I’m positive it’ll get better again in the new year. ^^

  4. Aww! That’s SO stinking sweet! 🙂

    My significant other is my bookshelf. We get along awesomely. Well, we DID, until I decided to replace him with a NEW bookshelf. So relationships are bought and sold around my house. I’m not very loyal. My bad. (The new bookshelf is BIGGER.)

  5. Seriously cutest post ever. I just died of cuteness overload. You guys sound perfect for each other. I totally get the whole reading while he plays a game thing. That’s my husband and I all the time. But it’s perfect. Even though we aren’t talking, we’re still together and that’s totally enough. And I love your joke at the end about dividing by zero. Best joke ever. 🙂

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  6. This post is the cutest thing I’ve read in a while! It always makes me so happy to read about others happiness 😀 You guys truly sound like you are meant to be – and awesome to see that you are really talking about getting married! I’m thinking about writing my own post about my significant others, but in short:

    Met in school. We became friends, we talked on MSN for hours and soon, we started to get feelings for each other. He admitted he liked me and we’ve been together ever since 😀 5 years now. He makes me feel beautiful and happy, it’s the best feeling in the world! I also tend to steal his space in bed, haha

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  7. I have to say it’s HILARIOUS that you blurred his face and said he’s a superhero and his identity needs to stay hidden. My husband is the same way. He works for the government and does coding and everything is top secret. Sometimes I’m surprised he has a facebook account!! One time on facebook I jokingly wrote that my spy husband could figure it out and he made me delete that comment. It was crazy. I don’t think he’ll see this so the comment should be OK here. Or at least I hope (is he reading this right now?????) .

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  8. OMG it’s so hilarious that you used that picture! I’ve shown that to my boyfriend because that is SO TOTALLY ME. I’m a sprawler, so any time we sleep in the same bed he always complains about me hogging it ;D

    I think it’s so totally awesome that you found him, despite the struggles with distance and the visa and all that crap. I really do hope you can work it out and get married in the very near future! <3

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  9. Aww Ashley I am so happy that you two are so in love <33 You guys seriously seem to click and be so comfortable around each other, and the fact that you guys were already together before even seeing each other in person is adorable. I haven't even seen the two of you together but I know you guys are perfect for each other and I hope you guys can get married really soon.

    Fantastic post, Ashley! In case you were wondering, my significant other is my fridge and we're going to elope soon. Have a great holiday!

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  10. Ashley, this is just so cute. It’s like the digital love story fairytale thingy. It’s just so cute, to the point that Minion GIFs and cute GIFs would summarize all the feels. I hope everything works out with you and Coding god!

    And to answer your question, no significant other for the foreseeable future.

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  11. OMG this is so cute!!!!! It should be like a YA book and we would all buy it.

    Anyway, my significant other is someone very important to me. Let’s refer to him as “My Computer”. (No seriously, it’s a computer… I don’t have a significant other.) But your post should be a real story!!! EEEEPPP!!

    – Nova

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  12. I love hearing about Coding God haha! I met my guy in the summer of 2007 at work. We worked for the same company but since it was an IT firm, I was one of two girls. We became really good friends, and then I moved in with him and our ex-roommate in 2009. I think the biggest thing he has ever done for me was provide a safe haven when I needed to leave my ex (before we got together). He is the best!

    He recently put a ring on it. 😉

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