I see a ton of bloggers say things like:
“Whenever someone comments on my blog, I always comment back on theirs. They took the time to comment on mine, so I should return the favour.”
I TOTALLY get that. I really do. I think it makes sense and I respect anyone who does that. In fact, it’s pretty freakin’ awesome that they’d take the time to do that.
But I don’t comment back.
Here’s the thing… I love everyone who comments on my blog. I adore them for it! But I don’t always return the favour because I don’t want to feel obligated. I don’t want to visit a blog and sit there thinking to myself, “Hmm.. What’s a post I can comment on? What can I say?” I don’t want to go on a hunt for something that I can respond to.
I think comments should be made out of a genuine interest.
That means I comment if I visit your blog and naturally have something I want to say. I don’t want to FORCE myself to come up with something just to return a favour. It doesn’t feel genuine. There are tons of times when I read a blog post, enjoy it, but don’t comment. I don’t comment because I don’t always have something to contribute or respond to. Sometimes there’s just nothing for me to say.
And if I’m being totally honest, sometimes I visit a blog and there are no posts I want to read. That does NOT mean the blog is a bad blog, it just means I’m not the right audience for it. We all have different tastes and interests. There’s nothing wrong with that. It just means there are people out there whose blogs I don’t click with. Similarly, there are people out there who don’t click with my blog. And that’s okay!
On the flip side, I don’t want people commenting on my blog out of a sense of obligation. I want them to comment because they genuinely were affected by the post and feel like they have something to say.