What would you say is the correct etiquette for following those who follow you? If you check out their blog and your eyes start to bleed, or if they read and review book genres that you don’t, BUT they have popped by and said they are now following you….what do you do???? Is it considered the done thing to follow them back anyway? Even if you’ll probably never read any of their reviews, or they have that comment system where you HAVE to have an account at fb/livejournal/disqus and a whole lot of others to actually comment on their posts?? (and if you have none of those, there is no way you can actually comment!) If you totally ignore it and don’t follow them back, is that “bad” etiquette? Aaargh. What do you do in situations like this???
To put it simply: you are not under any obligation to follow people you don’t want to! I think it would drive me bonkers if I felt obligated to follow everyone who follows me. In order to keep yourself sane, it’s important that you only follow blogs that you really enjoy.
Yes the person who follows you might be sad or offended that you didn’t follow them back. But I think it’s important that we all realize and understand that everyone has different tastes. If you don’t want to follow a blog, that doesn’t mean the blog is necessarily bad; it just means it doesn’t click with you. That could mean that you really don’t like the design, or you don’t like the commenting system, or you’re just not interested in the same books. Either way, it just boils down to different interests.
I know people who comment on my blog, but I don’t comment on theirs. And I comment on other peoples’ blogs but they don’t comment on mine. Every now and then I do have a little “poor me, they don’t like me enough to follow my blog” feeling. But I quickly snap out of it. I just understand that I may not want to follow a person because they only post book reviews and these days I’m more into discussions. That doesn’t mean their blog sucks, it just means it’s not “for me”. And on the flip side, my blog has mostly discussions and blogging tips with fewer reviews. I totally understand why some people might not like that.
So don’t feel bad for not following people! You’ll only drive yourself mad if you follow blogs that you don’t actually like.