Here are some of the things I see when I visit other blogs:
- Bloggers hosting guest posts from authors, and the way it’s written makes it seem like the author and blogger are close friends (and this post is not part of a blog tour)
- Bloggers getting physical ARCs and talking about their publisher contacts
- Bloggers interviewing publishers (they have a close enough relationship that they can make a whole post about them)
- Bloggers being really close friends with authors
- Bloggers being invited to publisher parties or events
The common theme here that I’m getting at is: a lot of bloggers have close publisher/author contacts.
Sometimes when I see all those posts it makes me feel like I’m blogging wrong, or I’m out of the loop. I’ve been blogging almost two years now and I feel like I should have contacts but I don’t. Here’s a list of reasons I’ve come up with for why I don’t have any contacts:
- I only read ebooks. I feel like the biggest way people get contacts (correct me if I’m wrong) is through requesting physical copies, because that has to be done on a more personal level through email. But I only get my ARCs on NetGalley and Edelweiss, which requires ZERO personal contact with the publisher. Since I have no reason to contact them, I don’t. Thus, I never get any contacts.
- I’m shy. I’m not good at initiating contact. If a publisher were to email me, I’d reply. But I would never be the person to try to initiate contact with publishers.
- I don’t even know how the heck people become friends with authors. I think I just suck at making friends in general.
When I think about it a bit more, I can convince myself that I don’t need those kinds of contacts. Yeah it’s pretty cool, but I’m fine with flying under the publisher radar. I guess I’ve always been someone who just does my own thing. I’ve never been good at making friends, and maybe that same thing carries over into the “I’m not good at making contacts” area. But to be honest, I don’t even know what I’d do with a contact if I had one.
I still get those feelings like, “I’m not an accomplished book blogger because I have zero publisher contacts.” But at the end of the day, it’s fine. You don’t need publisher contacts to be a successful or accomplished book blogger. You don’t need ARCs or blog tour invites. Heck, you don’t even have to post book reviews.
There are no rules when it comes to book blogging. You can be someone with tons of publisher contacts and invites. You can be someone who only reads self published books. Or you can be someone who has zero contacts and doesn’t even post a lot of reviews. Don’t worry about doing things “right” and don’t be afraid because you think you’re not “advancing”. And most importantly, don’t compare yourself to other bloggers. You can do whatever the fuck you want! Break away from the pack, do your own thing, don’t compare, and give zero fucks about what other people think.