Avoiding Commitment by K.A. Linde

The genre for this book is erotica. My review may allude to sexual or other graphic scenes.
Avoiding CommitmentAvoiding Commitment by K.A. Linde
Series: Avoiding #1
Published by: Self Published on July 30, 2012
Genre: Contemporary, Erotica, Romance
Pages: 357
Source: Purchased
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Jack and Lexi never had a typical relationship. After 2 years without speaking, she receives a phone call that changes everything. He unexpectedly asks her to convince the new girl, Bekah, that he's ready to commit. Jack is calling now after everything they had been through because there is another woman. She can't believe it. Follow Lexi in this heart wrenching drama as she relives her past relationship, or lack thereof, with Jack, and not just in her own mind, but to his fiancé-to-be. Throw in Bekah's hot brother who always seems to be in the right place at the right time, a past with more secrets to unravel than you can even imagine, and you get a recipe for disaster. Find out what happens to Lexi as she travels to Atlanta to get the closure she so desperately desires from Jack, and how the bumps of life seem to keep getting in the way.

I wanted to love Avoiding Commitment, and I think I expected to love it because of all the rave reviews. Unfortunately, I hated it.

Oddly enough, I started out enjoying the book. I expected some incredible romance, a bit of drama, maybe a bit of cheating—but if done well, I knew I could handle it. K.A. Linde uses flashbacks to show us Lexi’s history with Jack, and the more backstory I got, the less sympathy I had for Lexi and the less I enjoyed the book. This story is essentially about:

  • Lexi cheating on her boyfriends to be with Jack.
  • Jack cheating on his girlfriends to be with Lexi.
  • A book that spans six years. Six fucking years. Seriously, this book was way too long.
  • More cheating.
  • Horrible breakups because of said cheating.
  • Flashbacks that show all the times Lexi got hurt by Jack.
  • Then Jack cheats on Lexi and she can’t believe it. So it’s okay for her to cheat on her boyfriends but heaven forbid it happens to her?
  • etc. etc.

Most of my problems with this book just boil down to the fact that Jack is a complete and utter jackass with no respect for relationships (hence the book title), and Lexi stupidly thinking that Jack truly loves her and wants to commit to being in a relationship with her. Jack continuously hurts her and disappoints her over the span of six years, but she still doesn’t realize that he’s a jackass. He won’t commit to her. He’ll cheat on her. She’ll always be the “other woman.” But she doesn’t understand that, and keeps throwing herself into his arms anyway, and crying when he disappoints her. So at the end of the day, I just had no sympathy for her. She brought it all on herself.

Lexi keeps saying she’s in love with Jack, but my question is: why? All we learn about Jack is:

He’s hot.

He’s a douche.

So why does she love him? All I see in their relationship is lust. Anytime Lexi is within two feet of him, all she can think is “sex, sex, sex. Please, fuck me now, even if I have a boyfriend.” Honey, that’s lust—not love. This book had no romance in it at all—it was just pure sex. That wouldn’t necessarily be a bad thing, if Lexi weren’t running around saying that she loved Jack and wanted a relationship with him. And Jack was just ridiculous. He fed her lies and false hopes and manipulated her and then disappointed her every time. And whenever he was dating another woman and cheating on that woman to be with Lexi, he would get furious whenever Lexi kissed someone else “on the side.” But it was perfectly okay for him to be dating and fucking another woman? Hypocrisy, much? No girl should want to be in a relationship with a guy like that.

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But, the worst part was definitely at the end. Jack is dating Bekah, but tells Lexi that he really wants to be with her. Jack tells Lexi that she’s the one he truly wants and that they’ll figure everything out. Hours later, Jack and Lexi have sex. The next day, she finds out that Jack had just proposed to Bekah. Yeah, so much for that. He literally just use Lexi for a quick fuck, as far as I’m concerned.

And the cheating in this book was just ridiculous. Some authors can get me to ‘accept’ horrible things. For example, take Captive in the Dark. That book is about a man who kidnaps a woman to train her to be a sex slave. That’s horrible. That’s disgusting. That’s completely unthinkable. But the author masterfully makes me fall in love with the book and the story and the whole thing. So the fact that Avoiding Commitment is all about cheating (which I despise), doesn’t automatically make me hate the book. The problem is that the author didn’t convince me that it made sense. She didn’t pull me in or make me fall in love with the story or the relationship enough to make me overlook the horrible acts of cheating. So instead, I just rolled my eyes every time it happened.

The bottom line is that this book was insanely long, very frustrating, and not satisfying. Lexi is absolutely ridiculous, naïve, and had an incredible ability to not learn from her mistakes. I never would have thought that a “smart” law student could make the same mistakes so many times, especially when she has like 5 people at any given time telling her how ridiculous she’s being.

I did think it was clever how the author swapped between two time periods: present day, and the past but slowly brought the past forward back up to match with present day. But that interesting way of presenting the book wasn’t enough to make up for the annoying main character and ultimately frustrating story. I almost didn’t even finish the book because I just felt like it was going nowhere, and even the end was just Lexi finally realizing what EVERY CHARACTER had been screaming at her from page one. Towards the end I was doing a lot of hair pulling and skimming, just forcing myself to finish the book.

I almost feel like I don’t understand the point of Avoiding Commitment. As a reader, I immediately knew what the problem was and how it should be solved. I knew that Jack was an asshole that she should stay away from. But it takes Lexi the entire book to even realize that. So I feel like I just spent 350 pages waiting for Lexi to catch up to me. I never felt like I was on the same page as her. I couldn’t relate to her or sympathize her. I honestly looked down at her for acting childish. And when the book ended, I was just like “FINALLY, YOU’VE CAUGHT UP! WE CAN ALL GO HOME NOW!”

The Verdict


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  1. Oh wow, that does sound aweful. I know what you mean about authors making us okay with bad things. Those are the authors you want to read. I hate the topic of cheating in books. Unless it’s done very well, I can’t get over cheaters. This sounds like a uber depressing read. I hate stupid girls like that that take all that crap and still think they can love that person for NO FREAKING REASON!

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    1. I’m so glad you agree! It just annoyed me so much! I kept wanting to rage at the main character and like.. talk some sense into her or something.

  2. *giggles* sorry for laughing about your frustration, but I can totally see how frustrated you are with this book! You know I loved this book, saw everything from a different angle so reading your review actually made me smile.
    You and me often are so similar in our taste, yet here we both went complete opposites.

    I think for me it was Lexi just and simply not realizing that he’s an ass, she was in love with him or in lust – however she couldn’t see Jake clear enough. But from her eyes, she could never stop wanting him. Of course, we as a reader we know he’s an ass and we know what would be best for her, but she can’t!

    Oh , that spoiler part? I admit having real problem with this scene… That was the moment I really hated Jake…

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