I have some blogging confessions to make. Some of these are cold hard truths, or things I’m slightly afraid to admit, or just things that are on my mind. So have a read, then make your own confessions!
I judge a blog by its design
This is one of those things that I just can’t help. I KNOW that not everyone can afford a designer. I KNOW that not everyone wants to buy a pre-made blog template. I know that, and I get it. So, logically speaking, I shouldn’t judge people by their design tastes or their finances. But the web designer in me takes over like some possessed demon. If you have a plain, empty, unattractive (in my opinion, because this is totally subjective!), laggy, overly cluttered blog, then I most likely will not want to read your posts.
It makes me feel awful but I literally don’t know how to help myself. I just can’t change it. Of course there are a few exceptions, like people I’ve met and absolutely love so I read their blogs even if I don’t like the design. But generally speaking, this is the way it is.
If you have more friends than books on Goodreads then I will reject your friend request
This wasn’t always the case. I used to accept EVERYONE. But then I realized how spammy and horrible my feed was. I was constantly getting invited to groups I didn’t want to join, authors were spamming my events section with giveaways for their books, I was getting book recommendations from authors who were recommending THEIR OWN books, etc. Mostly, it was just full of self published authors who were spam advertising their own work and that is a huge turn off.
So, I did a big friend clean out. I removed over 100 people from my friends list (everyone with more friends than books—evidence that they are using Goodreads to network instead of review books). Now, I don’t accept those people at all. I also created a challenge question asking why you want to be my friend. This is to help aid me in weeding out the people who only want to use Goodreads to network or advertise. I’m only interested in being your friend on Goodreads if you actually read, review, and discuss books (that are not your own!).
I edit my reviews to make them shorter because I’m afraid no one will read them if they’re too long
Of course there are exceptions to every rule—example: my review of Taking Chances by Molly McAdams. Sometimes (usually when I hate a book) I just let myself go on and on and on. But in most cases, I write out my review and then cut it back (sometimes taking out entire paragraphs). I’m worried that if my reviews are too long, people will get bored, or stop reading, or just see how long it is and immediately close the window. I hate doing this because sometimes I do have a lot to say and I want to highlight every point, but my fear of people never reading my review always wins over.
I stress when I don’t have time to comment back or reply to comments
Lately I’ve been SO BUSY. With school, freelance work, and my own personal projects, I barely even have time to read these days.. but I have even less time to reply to comments and comment back on those peoples’ blogs. I do read all the comments and I love them to death! But I feel horrible when I can’t respond or reciprocate. I’m afraid people will hate me for it or think that I don’t appreciate them or stop commenting.. or all of the above! I just wish I had more hours in the day. 🙁
Sometimes I feel like my reviews are boring
Do you ever feel like your reviews are starting to sound the same? Sometimes I get like déjà vu when writing them. I’ll find myself saying something like:
I loved the story—the world building was really unique! But we didn’t get a lot of information on the history. I could imagine the current state of the world, but not how it actually got there from where we are today.
And then realize that I said basically the exact same thing in a previous review. I guess it’s bound to happen because books have similar successes and failures.. but it makes me feel like I’m repeating myself. If it bores me to even write it, are my followers bored while reading it??
I have little drive to review 3 star books
If I LOVED a book or HATED a book then I’m usually pumped to review it. But it’s those 2.5 – 3.5 star reviews that bug me. When I feel “meh” about a book, I often don’t feel like reviewing it. It’s those “meh” reviews that are hard to write. I have to really struggle to find pros, and really struggle to find cons. Because ultimately, I usually just feel indifferent.
This has become more and more frequent. If I don’t love or hate a book, I often don’t feel like reviewing it at all! If I do end up reviewing it, then I usually write one short paragraph, then sit there for 20 minutes trying to bulk it up.
I wish I could blog more about my life
I see some people publishing awesome posts about their life.. even if it’s just their day-to-day things. But somehow, they make them fun and interesting. I feel like the only thing I’m good at talking about is Coding God (are you guys getting sick of him yet??). But outside of the sexy superhero coder, I don’t know what to talk about! How do you blog about your life in a way that people actually care? I wish I could find a way to make my normal life sound interesting and put it in a blog post.
I feel like I won’t be a *great* blogger because I’m not funny
I feel like all the truly amazing bloggers are funny. They have snark, wit, and all their posts are effortlessly hilarious. I don’t think I’m like that. 🙁 I guess you could say my posts are helpful, informative, genuine, and maybe interesting.. but I don’t think they’re funny. I don’t feel that I have that great, witty personality that makes people laugh. I WANT THAT! But I’m not sure that’s something you can just develop. Either you’re naturally funny/snarky/witty or you’re not. It’s hard to train yourself to be like that.
I’m greedy about page views
I feel like I won’t ever be satisfied with my page views/reach/following. I feel like I’ve achieved A LOT and I’m definitely proud of what my blog has become. I’m REALLY proud! But I feel like I’ll always want more. I don’t want my blog to stay the same, I want it to keep growing and succeed on a higher level.
It makes me feel greedy.
I feel like I’m SUPPOSED to be satisfied. I’m supposed to feel like what I have is “enough”. But I think it’s in my nature to want to continue to grow. This blog is my baby and I want to constantly be improving it and growing it; I don’t want it to just stand still. But I can’t help but be a little ashamed, because I know some bloggers would kill for the page views I get. So maybe I should just shut up and be grateful!